My beautiful husband and I are moving to Seattle in mid December so we are looking for a place to live close to Seattle’s Gayborhood. If you can throw me some suggestions of rentals in nice neighborhoods we would greatly appreciate it.
Thank You ,
Mr. Wonderful
Dear Mr. Wonderful,
We’ll notify the local rainbow welcome wagon of your impending arrival. Lucky for you there are a few gayborhoods in Seattle. The main one is our world famous Capital Hill. You can find just about everything you’d need within walking distance..fun, food, clubs, boutiques and thrift stores. Like most gay neighborhoods, it became gay because it was affordable and after we rented apartments and opened businesses, the developers realized it was a happenin’ place and now they’re doing what they do best, which is ruin a good thing in the name of progress. However, it’s still a hotspot and you’d probably be happy there.
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MARRIAGE AND BONDAGE
My friend wants to do some light s&m. her partner of 3 years wants nothing to do with it. it’s a rather strong desire on my friends part., but not worth losing the relationship over….any advice as to how to get a girl to come around? Or should she just walk away because she can see the lesbian bed death crawling in their direction?
Concerned
Dear Concerned,
Look out, lesbian bed death is REAL! Instead of fighting over sex, and/orS/m talk about it. Sometimes talking about sex can be a turn on. Focus on things you can agree upon instead of things that cause one person undue stress. You could turn the whole thing into a game and both have fun with it. For example, you could have a conversation about potential sexual or seduction scenarios. For example; One of you is in a bar, the other comes in and picks her up as if it were the first time you’ve met…or ….you take your dog to the dog park and a mysterious stranger coaxes you into her car where you end up at a hotel and have “anonymous” sex. Whatever turns your crank. And if someone gets tied up along the way, well there you are. But don’t focus on the conflict, focus on the fun.
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ALCOHOL: FRIEND OR FOE
My wife of 12 years has developed a drinking problem, in fact, she’s become a flat out drunk and won’t admit it. Do I leave the marriage, even though she’s the love of my life? All my friends tell me to leave but that’s easier said than done. I know I’m an enabler, but is it different for gay couples? Should we stay the course because it seems our love is more sacred (for lack of better words) ? It would kill me to just leave her.
Wife in Distress
Dear Wife in Distress,
12 years is a long time to be together, and not something to be flushed down the toilet. Drinking is not the problem, it’s a symptom of a deeper problem. Don’t focus on the drinking because that’s just a stand-off. Seek outside assistance.Tell your wife you’re not happy with things the way they are, and you want to talk to someone else about it. Tell her you’d prefer it if she’d go with you, but if she refuses you’ll go by yourself. Then do it. Whatever you do, don’t maintain the status quo. Shake it up…take action…get her attention!
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