Some straight folks find this shocking: gays like to cuddle with lovers and don't always do the bu-fu!
The Huffington Post has a report on a new gay sex study conducted by George Mason University, Indiana University, and Online Buddies, Inc. They polled “24,787 gay and bisexual men between the ages of 18 and 87 in the US…The study aimed to “document the sexual behaviors that gay and bisexually identified men report during their most recent male-partnered sexual event and to describe the situational characteristics and participants’ evaluation of these events.” The article calls the results “Surprising”. Here’s a few of them.
18% said they had sex with a boyfriend/partner, 19% with a casual/dating partner, and 17.3% with a friend.
There goes the myth that we only have sex with strangers…
The most common “sexual behavior” reported during the most recent “sexual event” was giving oral sex (75%), followed by kissing on the mouth (74.8%) and receiving oral sex (73.4%).
Why is this surprising? Kissing is fun! Oral sex is fun!
35.5% and 33.8% of participants engaged in receptive or insertive anal intercourse respectively. Receptive anal sex was most common among 18-24 year olds and insertive was most popular among 30-39 year olds.
Also not surprising…anal sex is “The Big Event”. It takes a bit more planning. Who has the time to do “It” every time you make da love?
Most “sexual events” involved between five and nine different sexual behaviors. The most frequent combo (16.2%) included “holding their partner romantically, kissing partner on mouth, solo masturbation, masturbating partner, masturbation by partner, and genital-genital contact.” 13.4% liked this version: “holding their partner romantically, kissing partner on mouth, masturbating partner, masturbation by partner, genital-genital contacting, giving oral sex, and receiving oral sex.”
I’m sensing a theme here…the straights are apparently amazed to discover we’re not butt fucking strangers all over the place… I partly understand it. Naive straight people want to believe that gay sex apes straight sex. One person must play the “male/dominant/masculine” role and the other the “female/passive/feminine” role and should follow heteronormitive guidelines: foreplay/some oral/fucking. Or, they’ve watched a bit of gay porn at some point and think our sex lives are like a Titan video. Their surprise is that a lot of gay sex is really what the straights call foreplay: cuddling, stroking, caressing, kissing, licking, etc. Anal sex is great, but it’s not a daily option on all of our sexual menus and I think that perplexes many straight people…their sexuality is defined by the biological need to procreate, thus penile-vaginal sex. Gay sex isn’t defined that way. We’re there to make love and/or get off and we don’t have to “go all the way” to do that.
It might surprise y’all but it doesn’t surprise us.
Now you’ll have to excuse us; we need to go oil up our lovers for some heavy petting…
